If you’re anything like me, there are always aspects of your life or your personality that you’re working to improve. After all, nobody’s perfect— that’s part of the beauty of life. We all make mistakes, we all have bad habits, we all make bad choices sometimes, and that’s okay.
That’s great! But if you do want to continue learning and improving, it’s probably not a great idea to just keep doing the same thing you’ve been doing for years. It’s time to try something new.
This is where affirmations come in. Affirmations are positive statements that you make out loud, every day, to help you shift your mindset positively and productively. These statements can be about literally anything. For example, if you are trying to increase your self-confidence, you could say something like, “My self-confidence increases every day.”
Or if let’s say, you just had a bad breakup and you’re trying to shift your focus from your dating life (or lack thereof) to your career—then you could say to yourself, “I will focus on improving my job prospects,” or, “I am completely focused on my work.” It’s all about what changes you want to make—how you want to improve your mindset and, ultimately, your life.
Now, one of the main benefits of affirmations is that they help you to change how you think—over time. You won’t wake up one morning, say to yourself that you’re going to be happy from now on, and then have the best day of your life every day until you die.
Well, you probably won’t, anyway —I suppose anything is possible. But if you commit to taking five minutes of your morning to stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eye, and tell yourself that you are a beautiful, capable person who will achieve all she is working for, you’ll find that after a couple of weeks, you’re starting to believe yourself.
Maybe you’ll stop cringing every time you look in the mirror, or maybe you’ll start to notice all of the small steps you’re making toward your big goals—the steps that have been made easier now that you know, and I mean know, that you’re capable of anything you set your mind to.
Affirmations aren’t magic spells. You can’t just say that you’re going to advance in your career and sit in your chair staring at a blank computer screen every day—you have to work your ass off and take advantage of the chance opportunities that come around. You can’t just tell yourself that you’re going to love your family members better and then proceed to ignore them every time they come near—you have to listen when they talk and respond patiently and kindly.
What I’m saying is, if you don’t follow up on your affirmations with actions, not much in your life will change. I mean, it makes sense. Empty words are useless. But affirmations are the first step to a better morning, to an improved mindset—to you that you like to be around.
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Affirmations #1: I am conﬁdent. I am strong. I am powerful.
Affirmations #2: I am capable. I am a leader. I go after what I want.
Affirmations #3: I am successful. I am worthy. I respect myself.
Affirmations #4: I am beautiful. I am attractive. I love myself.
Affirmations #5: I will succeed. I believe in myself. I achieve whatever I put my mind to.
Affirmations #6: I can do anything. I speak my mind. I am intelligent.
Affirmations #7: I will defend myself. I am a winner. I am a warrior.
Affirmations #8: I will follow my gut. I will do things my way. I ﬁght for my beliefs.
Affirmations #9: I remain hopeful. I ﬁght for myself. I create my happiness.
Affirmations #10: I rise above hardships. I take care of myself. I am satisﬁed with my accomplishments.
Affirmations #11: I am naturally romantic and polite. I will not hide who I am. I let go of all expectations for my love life.
Affirmations #12: I realize that date is potential, not permanent. I will let my relationship happen naturally. I will recover from every dating hardship.
Affirmations #13: I love and respect my partner. I will continue to develop a healthy relationship with my partner. I will allow love to ﬁnd me.
Affirmations #14: I will communicate clearly and kindly with my partner. I deserve a healthy relationship. I will always be myself.
Affirmations #15: I am willing to compromise with my partner. I will not allow my partner to devalue me. I naturally shift my focus away from looks.
Affirmations #16: I am a conﬁdent and capable lover. I am a powerful sexual being. I will have sex only when I want to.
Affirmations #17: I am happy being single and independent. I have a lot of fun when I’m single. I deserve to be appreciated.
Affirmations #18: I will show my appreciation for my partner. I am a unique lover and partner. I will value my partner’s one-of-a-kind positive traits.
Affirmations #19: I am overcoming my sexual insecurities. I provide immense sexual pleasure to my partner. Feeling sexually conﬁdent is a natural part of my life.
Affirmations #20: I am healthy and attractive. I am free of negativity. I see myself as beautiful.